![]() I've been close to getting married before but for different reasons it just didn't work out. I had to evaluate whether I was considering marriage for the right reasons. I had to ask questions like "Is this truly the man God has for me or do I like the fact that someone said they loved me enough to entertain the thought of me being their wife for the rest of their life?". I can be a lot to deal with. I had to reevaluate if our beliefs and values truly aligned or was I skewing reality. Marriage is a lifelong commitment if I am going to be with someone for THE REST OF MY LIFE I can accept no substitutes. When I get married I'm getting married once. Plenty of people say this before they get married but not everyone means it. Before some get married or when a problem arises they say "well if he does this I'm going to divorce him" you can't go into a marriage already coming up with prerequisites for divorce. The man I marry needs to have the same sentiments and truly mean it. The "D" word is not allowed. Try and leave me if you want to ...this is "til death do us part" buddy. Marriage is serious not just something to do when you're on an emotional high. We can be so desperate to experience love through marriage that we are blind to the truth. We don't really seek God on the matter and we don't really take time to understand what marriage is. Marriage is a sacred covenant, a vowel between God, a husband and a wife. Marriage is two people coming together as one to exemplify God's love for his people. Marriage is the foundation of a family. Some people call it a piece of paper but it is so much more than that unfortunately most people have devalued marriage to the worth of paper. Some say they want a fairy tale marriage with a happily ever after. I think people forget about allll the turmoil that goes on before the happily ever after takes place. If you want a happily ever after you may have to go through some things to get there. Some people don't think marriage is important. They don't think there is a need to get married. If you're a Christian you should not think this way. I'm not saying you have to get married but understand the value and understand what your life should look like if you decide not to get married. Oh and for goodness sake marriage is not about having the biggest most elaborate wedding ceremony. In a time where we see more divorce than marriage and more unhappy couples than happy couples your outlook on marriage may be a picture of gloom and doom but I truly believe that the institution of marriage is God ordained and can be a beautiful union when done the right way. To all those who have been divorced there can be restoration or someone that God will join you together with. Don't put yourself together with someone that's God's job. To all my unhappy married folks dig into God's word he can turn the worst of marriages around. To all my singles reading this don't give up hope of God sending you the right person to marry. Have faith, believe and ACCEPT NO SUBSTITUTES.
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Waylon Gipson
10/30/2013 11:26:18 pm
I feel the same way about marriage and feel it should be till death do us part. All the things you mentioned about marriage I'm in agreement with you. I think your such a wise woman along with being beautiful on the inside and out as far as I've seen. I love your smile and your eyes I can get lost gazing into them..:) I like your sense of humour and your entrepreneurial mind along with you keeping your body fit.... So anyway, back to the marriage vows! I feel its a covenant between the couple and God that shouldn't be easily broken, especially if the married couple disagrees on certain issues. I think the things that the couple feel passionate about should be talked about before marriage..I can explain more but I have to head to work..:) Enjoy your day!
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Camille Aiko
11/7/2013 10:08:20 am
Thanks for the compliments and feedback. It's good to know there are others out there who are like minded!
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Tiffany Moore
10/31/2013 12:36:12 am
Beautifully said Camille! Marriage is not to be entered into lightly. It take both people to want it, and work for it. It's not all happily ever after, you have days where you don't like each other, you have days you don't want to leave their side. Love is truly tested and I believe when you have God in your marriage, it can withstand all the tricks of the enemy. (Because we fight not against flesh abs blood.)
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Camille Aiko
11/7/2013 10:11:31 am
Thanks Tiffany! Sometimes people leave God out of their marriage but if only they understood the difference He makes. Thanks for sharing!
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10/31/2013 01:14:39 am
This is one of the very best Blog Post that I have read about Marriage
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Camille Aiko
11/7/2013 10:13:31 am
That's awesome!! 28 years!! I love happily married couples it gives people like me hope :-) Thanks for reading and commenting!
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Michelle Bell
10/31/2013 01:55:18 pm
Amen!! im in agreement too many marriages ending because the other person wakes up one day and wants to try someone new..because they tired of what they consider the old...work through what you got...i believe when you not happy with onesself you can't be happy with your better half...so fix you if you already married and work it out till the marriage is fixed..if not married yet...fix self in advance ...know yourself before you try to know someone else....im 33 been married 8 plus years...i can say each day we didn't always agree on every little thing...but we agree to disagree or do whats best in the decisions over our family....in all that i can its works because God is first in our family...not friends not mom dad or even other saints God...and it seriously makes a difference...God love will make you want to love right...& make you want your marriage to work 100%..too death do us part...:)
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Camille Aiko
11/7/2013 10:17:58 am
Love it! You made some strong points. People are always looking for someone to complete them but in order for a person to truly be who they need to be they must be okay with self first. A spouse should enhance who you are not make you who you are. I also love the point of keeping people out they may have good intentions but it's not always what's best. Thanks for reading and sharing!
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